There are a few things in life that are scary. The realisation that you can't live without someone, knowing that you would be capable of doing anything regardless of the consequences for them and the fear of failing to do what you know is right.
One of the scariest moments in my life was when my wife said to me on evening last year "I have a girlfriend.". Just with those few words sent me in to a tailspin, I didn't know how I felt, what to do or how I could go on living my life as I had. I handled it about as badly as I could, I hid from what was happening, lashed out when I could no longer deal with it and tried to run away from it all.
It was hard to understand how my wife and I had come to this point in our lives. I was petrified of doing anything for fear of losing everything I had even though that was not going to happen. I was scared that I had messed up everything and ended up pretty much doing that anyway in dealing with what was happening. I let my fears overtake me and turn me in to an idiot.
How you deal with what scares you can drastically alter your life. I've never been very good at dealing with those things and often mess things up completely in doing so.
There has been one exception to this rule though. The scariest thing I have ever done is to ask my wife to marry me. I had no idea how to do it or what would happen once I went down that path but I knew that if I didn't ask I would not forgive myself for not trying. Having asked her I have been the happiest in my life that I have ever been and will ever be. I wish I had remembered how getting through that scary thing properly made things much better when dealing with things recently.
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